September 22, 2015

My Ideal Marriage

A popular saying goes, "Marriage involves three rings: the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering."

           Good communication is the key to any solid relationship, most of all, marriage. I want my husband to share his thoughts with me. I want to hear his dreams and to share in his struggles. On the other hand, I will also want him to be ready to listen to me, and interested to know what is happening in my life. There should be no secrets between us.

Our life is full of challenges. We can expect to face failure as well as success; heartache as well as joy; boredom as well as excitement. So, the my husband has a positive attitude and a good sense of humor. He is always witty and say things which make me laugh. My husband is the one who can see the silver lining behind every cloud, rather than focus on the flaws in every situation. With such a man, I am encouraged to look at life in a happier and more positive way.

          Above all other qualities, my husband is faithful. He is someone who really believes in that marriage is made to last "till death do us part". He is totally committed to our relationship, and willing to stay for the long, "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse"; as couples promise in the wedding vows. I am hoping that my husband would not be distracted by other women; not even when I have lost my looks and that he would be a "one woman man". In return, I will also promise my total loyalty and faithfulness to my husband.

            Actually, there are many other qualities that make a man perfect husband material. For example, one obvious quality would be the ability to provide; and, though it is not the most important quality, physical attraction must be a part of the equation for a marriage to work well. However, while it is easy to make lists, finding a man to live up to them will be very difficult. Furthermore,my advise is, instead of focusing on my requirements for the perfect husband, I think one should recognize one's own imperfections, and set about correcting them. As Barnett Brickner said, "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

           For people who are still single, pray for a good partner. I did that when I was still fifteen, until I found my husband at the right time. We face many trials in our married life but we commit to love each other and continue to love our children forever.